Hard to believe that the year ended already, right? And the beginning of the year says a whole new opportunity to make New Year’s resolutions and change our life for the better.
When we take New Year’s resolutions, we often focus on external goals, such as losing weight or saving money. But this year, let’s think of embarking on a different path by focusing instead on resolutions related to the state of mind.
The New Year is perfect for a new and positive start and should include the creation of a positive state of mind and the acquisition of new habits, such as taking care of oneself.
I prefer to use positive affirmative resolutions like” I’m going to treat my body with the respect it deserves “or” I’m going to eat healthy, nutritious food “as opposed to” I’m not going to eat sweets “Or” I will not give up my exercise program. “You deserve positive thoughts, including healthy, encouraging and happiness-friendly resolutions.
But this year I decided to make a powerful resolution that also revolves around the state of mind and can benefit everyone which is to be more positive in any possible way.
The good resolutions are not that at the 1st of the year we take them, it is when we consider that it is necessary.
- Take life in hand
To take back your life is to admit the necessity that something must be changed to lead the life that resembles us, that is in harmony with what we are. Sometimes, automatisms are so installed in our heads that they prevent us from taking a fresh look at things. It is then difficult to move them. When we understand that there is a problem and that we are aware of the obstacles to overcome, we are on the right track to resume our lives.
But how? We can start by reading inspiring books, such as self-help books, taking examples from models and questioning them. Resuming your life requires you to dissect, to identify who you really are and to distinguish it from what has been imposed, instilled, what is the “norm”.
- Learn from mistakes
We all make mistakes, and that’s what should move us forward. Do not complain about past mistakes, about what you should have done or not done. It’s done, we can not do it again, but we can learn from it. Tell yourself first that we can not always succeed, that even the greatest have failed. Then take the time to think about what happened: why this error/failure? What happened? Do you need to review your goals down? Do not hesitate to take advice from others or to ask them their point of view, to have an outside view of the situation. Perhaps your experience has already been experienced by someone else who can provide you with answers or solutions.
Surround yourself with positive people and laugh with them. Go see humor shows, watch funny movies, read. In short, put humor in your life. Practice self-deprecating without devaluing yourself. Laugh with your mistakes or your faults, look for a humorous angle to stressful or embarrassing situations, in order to relativize, everything is not so serious.
- Stop complaining
To stop complaining is, first of all, to learn to say no, because when you complain, it is often because you have accepted things you did not want. Either you have control over things and it’s up to you to say yes or no, or you have no control and there is no point in complaining because it will not make things happen. If you complain all the time, it is necessary to undertake work on yourself to change things. It’s not nice for you or for others. You can do this again to the books of personal development, but also to yoga, meditation, sophrology or even therapy.
- Spot small pleasures
Spot what is positive throughout the day. You can, for example, write down all the positive things in your day, or do it all day long. Also try to turn what you perceive as negative, positive. For example, you had a heated debate with your close friend, it made you feel bad. Yes, but this discussion was necessary to unlock some issues and at least things are said. Also learn to spot all that is positive in the world around you and put them forward: a smile, an interesting discussion, the sound of the waves, a compliment, the laughter of a child, the beauty of a landscape.
- Choose kindness
More and more studies show that people who regularly show kindness experience less chronic pain, stress, and insomnia and are happier, optimistic and confident. Kindness has also been associated with heart benefits and slower aging. In addition, it improves our interpersonal relationships and reduces social anxiety. In the field of business, a work environment where kindness is needed helps employees feel more engaged, improves morale, increases loyalty, reduces absenteeism and increases profits. But “being kinder” is a pretty vague resolution. So, it is best to proceed in stages.
Instead of declaring that you are going to be the good Samaritan, start by deciding to be nicer, in the order of five percent. Every morning, think of situations where your kindness could have an impact and remember to pause before reacting. This break allows us to give the benefit of the doubt and to assume that people have good intentions rather than being offended or hurriedly judging others. Once you think you can master this five percent, you can add five percent more and then five percent more. In a short time, kindness will become your basic parameter.\
The goal is to make your resolution part of your life. So, make the appropriate gestures over time and adapt them with enthusiasm. Do not hurry to get a result and do not expect to be successful overnight. Focus on the person you want to become, and for me and most of all a more positive person in every way I can.